give yourself a chance

  One mistake. One mistake, is all that it takes, and those ugly destructive thoughts of self-loathing return, like a thick summer swarm of black flies and mosquitoes, relentlessly attacking and sucking on our confidence, until we are broken. We all battle those...

back in the saddle

  I took a sabbatical from my writing and all social media last week. It wasn’t because I wanted to, quite the contrary.  After being on a roll for so long, I was afraid that I would taste the sweet fruits of laziness and never get back to it again. ...

self-loathing and self-criticism

  When did self-criticism become a viable opportunity for learning?  What does it really accomplish?  Why do we so readily embrace it? I’m not talking about constructive criticism, but even here, many of us just end up calling self-loathing a distant...

love yourself

  ‘You Fat Fuck!’ These are the words that ever so quickly flashed in my mind, as I locked eyes with myself, in the change room mirror.  I was somewhat surprised to hear them, given that I have been feeling relatively sexy of late.  It was not what I...

dance lesson

  Reading this will not improve your Cha-Cha. They say human beings were born to dance, but I know with absolute certainty that I was born to walk, or perhaps stand.  What I really do well however is nap.  We have a sacred family motto that reads...