a whisper

a whisper

Happy Tuesday! Let’s keep happy thoughts going as it gets colder and darker. If we could be honest with one other instead of pretending that everything is fine all the time, we would admit that we need each other and realize that human kindness is always just a...

daylight savings

daylight savings

I have written about the stories we tell ourselves before. We create the life we live in our mind and then we set out to prove ourselves right. If we say we suck at something, you can bet that you will suck at something. We all do it. We are story tellers, but its...

tomorrow

tomorrow

Welcome to November 1st! A new day of the month but the last day of the week. A bit of a contradiction or juxtaposition if you will but I guess its all a matter what story we want to tell ourselves about today. Is this the beginning of something or a continuation...

happy halloween

happy halloween

Happy Halloween. So what are we going to dress up as for the rest of the year? Are we going to continue being our ordinary selves or are we going to put on new clothes, a new attitude that fits better with the vision of who we want to be. Let me repeat that. Going...

and just like that

and just like that

And just like that… All of my marking got somehow done because report cards are due on Friday. I find that amazing. I set many days and times to get to the task of reading and correcting but those times never happened. Not the way I imagined they would anyway. It was...

winter is coming

winter is coming

There is little doubt about the coming of winter and that’s perfectly ok. I will be honest with you that the older I get the cold gets to me more and more, but that might be because I have no choice and have to go to work every morning. If I had the choice to stay in...

little victories

little victories

I am hoping this week is full of little victories because it seems that I have lost momentum in many of the things that are very dear to me. Nothing is wrong of course, it just feels like I’m in the middle of a lake paddling hard but in no particular direction. Now,...

long term vs short term

long term vs short term

It’s not easy to be told you’re not good enough or that someone else is better, but there is a worse consequence. What you do going forward once someone tells you that you don’t quite measure up will be the difference between success and regret. The one thing I keep...

train your brain

train your brain

I read a great post on instagram yesterday that has made me interested in neurochemistry.  It was a quote by Doctor Joe Dispenza who said that ‘your brain and body don’t know the difference between having an actual experience in your life and just thinking about the...

right now

right now

Right now I am sitting at Starbucks writing this journal entry. Coffee in hand and an everything bagel with butter and strawberry jam. I wish I had a pair of headphones with me because although the music is great, it is distracting my poor mind and interfering with...

no excuses

no excuses

No excuses. This is a statement that bears repeating and staking your dreams to. And it’s not negative in any way although it has been used in such a fashion by people who yell at you and tear strips off of you, but they misunderstand the phrase. They have a mindset...

blank page

blank page

The last few minutes I’ve had my coffee in hand, settled into my usual morning place at my favourite coffee shop and once again I am facing down a blank page. Sometimes I don’t know what to write. Do I write what I am feeling and what is going on in my life, or do I...

parent/teacher interviews

parent/teacher interviews

Tonight is parent teacher interviews, and I being a teacher am staying behind to have a very brief, under seven minutes, conversation with the parents and guardians of the students that have been entrusted to me. Truth be told, I’ve never had a bad parent/teacher...

two brothers

two brothers

I gave a speech yesterday at the Cobourg Toastmasters Open House. I spoke about the short story Two Brothers by Russian writer Leo Tolstoy.  If we’ve talked about literature at some point, it is no surprise to you how much I am in love with the Russian writers of the...

better

better

It’s getting better every day. That is my daily mantra no matter the weather or my mood. When I am up it is a reminder to celebrate and be grateful for the life I live. When I am down it is a reminder that being down doesn’t mean defeat because every day and in every...

accountability

accountability

I can’t say enough nice things about the photography workshop I took this summer. It was a small investment but it was and is unbelievable. I didn’t even go through all of it. There was so much information that I wasn’t able to get to all of it. Partly because I’m not...

just stories

just stories

The things that seem to hold us back from living the life we want are not out there, but quite honestly inside all of us. Our minds hold us back, or our thinking to be more precise. We tell ourselves and each other stories of how the world is and what our role in it...

got some sleep

got some sleep

I know I have written about sleep before and how important it is to our happiness and it’s worth noting that after several late nights, I finally managed to get a decent set of hours in deep sleep. What a difference that makes. My mind feels clear and rested. I can...

a smile from heaven

a smile from heaven

First, I thought I would be smart by doing a Quintessential Quotable entry yesterday instead of a journal reflection but for some reason I decided to clean up some files and lost a few entries. But no matter, I always look forward and will get at things this weekend....

people and details

people and details

Details are important. As a matter of fact, they may be more important than the important things provided you have mastered the important things.  Details matter a lot because it shows that you are paying attention. It shows that you care enough to take the time to...

a break

a break

Yesterday I cancelled going to Toastmasters and instead I stayed home and rested. I wasn’t physically tired but mentally. Instead of risking crashing  or making rash decisions I thought it would be best to take a deep breath and slow down because the pace of my life...

making new friends

making new friends

I found myself sitting at a marketing meeting at the Northumberland Players home at the old Fire House in Cobourg. Several times I wondered to myself (silently) what the heck I was doing there? How did it come about that I was asked and ultimately said yes to helping...

loving people not things

loving people not things

I was driving into work today and I starting thinking about the great divide between our daily assumptions and the reality of existence. In order to feel secure and happy we see things as permanent and stable, when in fact everything we encounter is anything but. I’m...

new things to say

I have been sitting here for a long time now, surfing the internet and looking at news articles with no real purpose, not quite ready to do some daily writing which I promised I would do each and every day. Sometimes I want to believe in writer’s block. That there is...

not so lucky

not so lucky

My daughter had a fish and her name was lucky. It actually wasn’t a she but a he because it was a beta fish. She wanted a girl fish so we simply treated the fish like a girl fish. I mean, come on, it’s a fish. Lucky died yesterday and it was my job to let my eight...

happy mind – happy life

happy mind – happy life

Far too many people take their mind for granted. More specifically, they ignore what a positive and hopeful mind is capable of. I hear it all the time. Complaining about the weather, not having enough time, focusing on this problem or that one. And I guess there must...

not looking too far ahead

not looking too far ahead

I think I may have said yes to too many things or maybe I didn’t but timing is making them all converge upon me at the same time. I am a month into my teaching gig which I love, but marking is beginning to come in fast and furious. Hockey is in full swing and there is...

if you don’t ask

if you don’t ask

If you don’t ask you won’t know anything. This seems obvious and a very basic thing yet many of us simply don’t ask because it’s impolite, improper, or we feel we don’t want to impose. And so nothing ever changes in our life. We get stuck in the predictable rotation...

chicago

chicago

Why not? John F. Kennedy in the nineteen sixties famously quoted fellow Irishman George Bernard Shaw. Two men looked out of their prison window to the outside. One saw nothing but mud and the other one stars. I’m paraphrasing a little bit but I hope you are moved by...

by what measurement?

by what measurement?

What is the measurement by which we measure our happiness?  This is probably a tough question to answer because I don’t think there is one measurement but in every aspect of our lives we measure ourselves by something different. For example when we are at work we...