a break

a break

Yesterday I cancelled going to Toastmasters and instead I stayed home and rested. I wasn’t physically tired but mentally. Instead of risking crashing  or making rash decisions I thought it would be best to take a deep breath and slow down because the pace of my life...

making new friends

making new friends

I found myself sitting at a marketing meeting at the Northumberland Players home at the old Fire House in Cobourg. Several times I wondered to myself (silently) what the heck I was doing there? How did it come about that I was asked and ultimately said yes to helping...

loving people not things

loving people not things

I was driving into work today and I starting thinking about the great divide between our daily assumptions and the reality of existence. In order to feel secure and happy we see things as permanent and stable, when in fact everything we encounter is anything but. I’m...

new things to say

I have been sitting here for a long time now, surfing the internet and looking at news articles with no real purpose, not quite ready to do some daily writing which I promised I would do each and every day. Sometimes I want to believe in writer’s block. That there is...

not so lucky

not so lucky

My daughter had a fish and her name was lucky. It actually wasn’t a she but a he because it was a beta fish. She wanted a girl fish so we simply treated the fish like a girl fish. I mean, come on, it’s a fish. Lucky died yesterday and it was my job to let my eight...

happy mind – happy life

happy mind – happy life

Far too many people take their mind for granted. More specifically, they ignore what a positive and hopeful mind is capable of. I hear it all the time. Complaining about the weather, not having enough time, focusing on this problem or that one. And I guess there must...

not looking too far ahead

not looking too far ahead

I think I may have said yes to too many things or maybe I didn’t but timing is making them all converge upon me at the same time. I am a month into my teaching gig which I love, but marking is beginning to come in fast and furious. Hockey is in full swing and there is...

if you don’t ask

if you don’t ask

If you don’t ask you won’t know anything. This seems obvious and a very basic thing yet many of us simply don’t ask because it’s impolite, improper, or we feel we don’t want to impose. And so nothing ever changes in our life. We get stuck in the predictable rotation...

chicago

chicago

Why not? John F. Kennedy in the nineteen sixties famously quoted fellow Irishman George Bernard Shaw. Two men looked out of their prison window to the outside. One saw nothing but mud and the other one stars. I’m paraphrasing a little bit but I hope you are moved by...

by what measurement?

by what measurement?

What is the measurement by which we measure our happiness?  This is probably a tough question to answer because I don’t think there is one measurement but in every aspect of our lives we measure ourselves by something different. For example when we are at work we...

it’s not easy

it’s not easy

Nobody said it would be easy and it sure isn’t. But than again that is the beauty of it. It’s not easy to decide to do something and then stick to it when life has a way of throwing all kinds of things your way when you least expect it. And non of it is bad. Ok,...

rest

rest

I have always loved sleep and am very lucky that when my head hits the pillow I go off to strange places and I don’t even remember where I have been when I wake up. This is not the case for other people I surmise. I had a case of that at school yesterday, when a young...

prioritizing

prioritizing

I received a wonderful compliment last week which I have been thinking about ever since. I was told that I had an amazing ability to prioritize what is most important in my life and get after it. It may not be a super power and it may not be something that most people...

buddha

buddha

The Buddha was on to something. Probably a lot many things that I am slowly realizing as I get older and one of them is definitely becoming present. Present by not getting overwhelmed with all the demands on our time because our idea of time is fragmented at best.  We...

pushing without feelings

pushing without feelings

I have come not to rely on my feelings which is not such an easy thing to do because it is a hell of a lot easier to do anything when you feel good about something. But those feelings come and go. They come to us and leave us as they want to, like the rain and the...

a dash of makeup

a dash of makeup

I had an incredible teaching moment yesterday. A young lady came to see me while I was helping the class with their thesis and topic sentences for an essay I assigned and she was concerned that she didn’t have a good answer to the question I asked. I asked the class...

bright side

bright side

I am not sure how it happened or perhaps it has been like this all along but I can’t help but think of myself as a positive person. It’s really funny. I don’t remember being positive my whole life. I’ve always had dreams. I was never an asshole, but I don’t think I’ve...

how to help

how to help

Helping my son become a good man and a great goalie is teaching me much about who I am and what I believe in. I am also learning that being a parent is a dance. You have to let your children experience life, you have to stand back without swooping in, but most...

one week in

one week in

First week back to school is coming to an end and I feel great. I have learned that there is always more work and more work and more work to do. That part never seems to change. The important thing is to realize this and get to work at things when we can, and know how...

transition

transition

My eight session coaching with an amazing photographer is coming to an end today and I am amazed how much I have learned and continue to dream big. But I won’t like. Not having someone to talk to on a regular basis to ask this or that when things come up is a little...

math

math

I found myself in a conversation yesterday that made me realize how differently I think sometimes. The conversation was about education and what kids should and should not be learning. I suggested that the Jaques Maritain idea needs to be tried someday. The idea that...

back at it

back at it

And so it begins. Another school year. Another string of going to bed by nine o’clock and waking up while the rest of the country still sleeps. I think I am more excited than sad that summer has come and gone. It really has though. I blinked and I am sitting in the...

wonderful world

wonderful world

I saw a post on Instagram yesterday which made me think. The post was lovely, at first. It said that if you have a person in your life who is always there for you, even when you get distracted or ignore them. It said that if you are lucky enough to have a person like...

podcast

podcast

I may have signed up a little early for the Fellowship Podcast this summer, being unable to really devote any time to it, but as the photography rebranding is winding down a touch I have more time to focus on it. I have two ideas for a podcast that I will be...

it begins (again)

it begins (again)

It’s that time of year again. The school year is upon us and summer vacation behind us. It’s time to back to routine and the little things.  I am extremely lucky and grateful to have a career that affords me a great life and that I get to do something truly...

equity

equity

Tomorrow I return to work after a great and fruitful summer. I can’t believe how quickly time goes by and I can’t believe how often I find myself saying it as I get older. I got a few things accomplished this summer but it seems life throws things at you fast and...

the crazy weekend that was

the crazy weekend that was

I am writing this because I want to remember this weekend down the road. It started innocently enough. I packed up my silver Hyundai and headed to Burlington for a bodybuilding show to set up my tradeshow booth. I stopped in Scarborough first to meet some friends for...

earning it

earning it

There are no shortcuts in life. We just have to earn it. Sure, people learn how to cheat or find a seemingly good shortcut but there is a myriad of consequences that comes with all of that. Consequences that are unseen at that moment.  The best way to get to where we...

back at it

back at it

A little break is not always a bad thing provided of course you come back to whatever you were doing and don’t use that as an opportunity to stop altogether. I’m back at it. Yesterday was an interesting day. A great family outing for the whole day and we came home to...

independence

independence

I am at a goalie development camp all week with my son, except for Friday when I’m heading out for a Nascar race in Brooklyn, Michigan. The camp is for him but I am learning so much observing him and witnessing the struggles he faces. Most of all I have become aware...