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you can’t feel forward

you can’t feel forward

Daniel Gilbert’s book Stumbling on Happiness was a deeply insightful read. It has changed the way I approach my life and what I choose to do everyday, and more importantly why it is that I choose to do it. One of the more delicious take aways from his years of...
labyrinth of decisions

labyrinth of decisions

A lot of the time there is no reason to make decision for tomorrow. The things that challenge and push us around toady have to be dealt with but there is no reason to finalize things today, when the future may look completely different. I think a part of us gets...
grains of failure

grains of failure

The problem with throwing up your arms and saying you’re a failure, or moaning unquantifiable mistakes is that there is nowhere to go and nothing to learn. Making mistakes and stumbling is as much a part of being human as taking in oxygen. We were born out of non...
weekend quotable no. 115

weekend quotable no. 115

If I’d observed all the rules, Id’ never have got anywhere. Marilyn Monroe Ignoring rules doesn’t mean being immoral or ugly. It doesn’t mean cheating, backstabbing, lying, being deceitful, or putting your boots into someone else’s face, to rise yourself higher....
weekend quotable no. 114

weekend quotable no. 114

I think we to often make choices based on the safety of cynicism, and what we’re lead to is a life not fully lived. Cynicism is fear and it’s worse than fear – it’s active disengagement. Ken Burns Cynicism is in some way worse than cancer. It feasts on joy and...
one and done

one and done

One and done. It’s an attitude and a highly infectious sickness that is running rampant in the free world and there doesn’t seem to be a cure that could shake us away anytime soon. It’s sad really. With so much opportunity and abundance which is afforded to everyone,...
the inevitability of your death

the inevitability of your death

Death is never an easy subject to broach or discuss. It makes us sad and uncomfortable, yet I think dealing with death is at the heart of our human potential and happiness. I’m not talking about dealing with death when someone we are close to dies or when we attend a...
before it comes

before it comes

There is a good chance you’re going to be frightened and scared again. It will happen again and again, and whatever form this takes and when it happens there is a way to prepare yourself to lesson its impact. Besides the cerebrum and the cerebellum that gives us the...
just quit

just quit

You need to quit. Quit putting the word ‘but’ after many things you say. You would save yourself a lot of time and frustration by just quitting. You know what I mean. I want to lose some weight but its summer and there are all these wonderful patios open. I would love...
don’t force change

don’t force change

We love to operate our lives in one of two modes; run and stop. When we are inspired and motivated, we get an unbelievable high and always overestimate how quickly and how easily we will get to where we want to go. Often, on the down slope, when the excitement and...
weekend quotable no. 113

weekend quotable no. 113

Anybody who speaks quietly and shrivels up in company is believably arrogant. Orson Welles   We praise shyness in children. We grow up and associate it with humility, but hiding away and shying away from the person you are in any setting is a great sin of pride....
weekend quotable no. 112

weekend quotable no. 112

Despite everything, no one can dictate who you are to other people. Prince   Despite everything, you are who you are, and you are the only one that was given the power to decide who you’re going to be, despite the chatter and dictates of other people. You’re in...
you can and you will

you can and you will

You can and you will. You have to believe it and live it out because if you don’t or if deep down you don’t believe it, you will have a hell of a time executing something you are subconsciously and secretly preparing to sabotage. We often stand in our own way. We are...
purposeful conversations

purposeful conversations

We all fill our day with copious amounts of idle chatter and there is nothing wrong with idle chatter either. We all need it and we like it. We like it and it makes us beautifully human and builds strong bonds with one another. Purposeful conversations however, are...
the one thing

the one thing

What is the one thing that you want more than any other?  And forget material things. Those fade unapologetically and quickly. They will break down and besides you can’t take them with you when you go. What is your one thing? Mine is writing and photography. You might...
and don’t forget to clean

and don’t forget to clean

When you are stuck. When your wheels are turning without traction and when you feel like you find it hard to breathe, try cleaning a little. Ok, forget a little, start cleaning a lot. Don’t forget to clean. And not just metaphorically but physically. It doesn’t matter...
it’s not all peaches and cream

it’s not all peaches and cream

Life is not all peaches and cream. It gets really rough sometimes. Life can get pretty rough, or monotonous, or tiresome, or worrisome, but that’s why they call it the art of living. Life is not a recipe of good things to be had and bad things to be avoided. There is...
weekend quotable no. 111

weekend quotable no. 111

Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. Arthur Ashe Be comfortable with where you are with what you’ve got because it’s not what you got but what you give that measures who you are and where you’ll go. Start right now, right here, right after you read...
weekend quotable no. 110

weekend quotable no. 110

Not knowing when the dawn will come I open every door. Emily Dickinson Open every door. Fling them wide open and do it with wild abandon. Walk through all the doors you find, because you don’t want a storage locker of what could have beens and should have beens. Fling...
why not you?

why not you?

You sometimes feel like a fraud. You hide yourself away from people and from real experiences because deep down although you want to realize your dreams, you feel that you are not good enough and that you don’t deserve what other people always manage to find. You fear...